Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Sex Positions by the Book


I’ve been wondering why so many books are published about sex positions. My own professional library includes the Kama Sutra; the Cookie Sutra (gingerbread cookies having sex); books with positions during pregnancy; for arthritis sufferers; for straight, gay and lesbian couples; for people into kink…just to name a few.



I highly value sexuality education — some people need help figuring out how to work around arthritic joints, pelvic pain, disabilities, pregnant bellies, or hip replacements. And I’ve consulted with people new to the game who wanted ideas about sexual possibilities prior to having partnered sex for the first time.


But wouldn’t it be great if everyone without specific health concerns felt free to toss out the manuals and enjoy the process of experimenting? After all, it shouldn’t matter whether you know the name “Reverse Cowgirl” if you already enjoy the woman-on-top-facing-her-partner’s-feet position.


The U.S. is one of the most sexually conservative Western cultures in the world, despite our highly sexualized media. As a result of this conservatism, we have distressingly high rates of unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infection. Shame, embarrassment, poor body image and performance anxiety are a nasty mix that keeps people from fully enjoying their sexuality. The concerns people express to me often relate to issues like these: “How do I know if I’m doing it right?” “How can I tell if my partner enjoys what I’m doing?” “If I don’t orgasm every time, will my partner stop trying?” “How can I get my partner to…?” “Do women really like that position where we…?”


In most cases, the answers can be found through experimentation. If you do A, and your partner moans with delight, you can bet you’re “doing it right.” If you and your partner talk during lovemaking – or at a neutral time before or after – you’ll learn the answers to the other questions. A playful attitude can go a long way, too. If you’ve always wanted to try having sex standing against a wall, go for it! You just need a partner and a wall – you’ll figure out the mechanics once you take your height differential into account and face each other, then both face the wall, or support a leg on a nearby chair, or not. You get my point. Sex position drawings can give you a hint of what’s possible: The rest is up to you, your partner, your creativity, and at times, your flexibility.


Toss out the shoulds, the oughts, and the doubts, and focus on what feels good for both of you. If a new position feels awkward, shift your weight, move your limbs differently, lean forward or back…and if it still doesn’t turn you on, chalk it up as a position that just doesn’t interest you, at least for now. If a position causes either of you to feel pain other than a little strain from stretching unfamiliar muscles, visit your doctor because painful intercourse can be a sign of potentially serious health problems.

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Sex during pregnancy

In normal case, sex is safe during all stages of pregnancy. The baby in the womb will remain safely protected by the amniotic sac and will be completely secure within the muscles of the uterus. Thick mucus seals the opening of the cervix and guards the foetus from external infections. The penis will not come into direct contact with the foetus when engaged in sex. However, open communication between the partners is extremely important to ensure a safe and satisfactory sexual relationship during pregnancy. There is no harm in engaging in sex if there is absolutely no pregnancy related complication. Never hesitate to talk to your doctor whether your pregnancy fall under the ‘normal’ section.

However, majority of the expectant mothers does not find sex interesting due to internal hormonal fluctuations. Some avoid sex due to the difficultly posed by their enlarged body. During the later months of pregnancy women will be pre-occupied with thoughts of the impending labour and the thrill of motherhood. Methods of showing intimacy such as kissing, caressing and holding each other will be beneficial, as it will provide mental support to the mother-to-be.

Sex should be strictly avoided if your partner has a history of sexually transmitting diseases. The infection will harm not only the mother but her foetus as well. Doctors will warn you against sexual intercourse if they anticipate any dangerous consequence. It is wise for women with a history of miscarriage or pre-term labour to keep away from sex. Women who suffer from amniotic fluid leakage or unexplained vaginal bleeding also should discard sex during pregnancy. Women who have the threat of Placenta pravia should also keep away from sexual intercourse. Here, the placenta gets lowered and the cervix gets covered. Sex also might be harmful to women who have conceived multiple foetuses. Incompetent cervix is yet another threat that might lead to a miscarriage, if sex is done. It is a condition in which the cervix gets weakened and prematurely opens up.

Those Old Sex Positions: Classic & Effective!


Between the sheets, some men have problems setting records for long-lasting lovemaking. While others have a hard time getting their partners to climax. Well, guess what -- I've put together a list of some fantastic sex positions. These sex positions are sure to fulfill your particular sexual mission, which should include giving your lucky lady some unadulterated pleasure. Please note that while these sex positions might not be the most exciting, actually they're pretty basic, they prove that you don't have to be a yoga expert to get off.


Her on top
If you're lucky enough to have a girlfriend who says to you, "Sometimes, I just want to be the chick in charge," you better let her take control of the situation and enjoy the ride. The female-superior sex position is perfect to assume when your partner is feeling energetic and playful. When the woman takes control, she decides whether she wants an orgasm via her clitoris or her G-spot, as both types of orgasms are attainable through this position. For a guaranteed clitoral orgasm, ask her to lean her torso forward, arch her back, and keep her crotch near the base of your penis.

Instead of the usual up and down movement, try lateral jerks to really hit the spot and increase sensitivity. Pulling yourself upright and hugging her tight for that special heart-to-heart moment is an added bonus with this sex position.

To maximize her chances of G-spot stimulation, get her to lean back on her hands. Assuming this sex position will persuade her to ride your sexual organ up and down as well as capitalize on all the awkward angles, which will hit her love button.


Her sitting
Your week was long, you just had a romantic dinner with red wine, and if you played your cards right, she wants to get it on in a hurry. Believe it or not, but women are often in the mood for a quick fix instead of a long, drawn-out, mushy love fest. To start this sex position right, lift her up onto the countertop and let her assume the spread-eagle position. Now, you should be standing in front of her to enter; the angle and thrust force provided by this sex position creates mega-heat in a minimal amount of time.

Intercourse in this sex position should get her excited in a hurry through G-spot stimulation. Although it maximizes your chances of getting her aroused, remember that you will be vulnerable to premature ejaculation. Due to the angle, the head of your penis will rub her inner body in such way that it will be hard to control your orgasm.

Yet another benefit from this unconventional sex position will be the novelty factor. Assuming this no-holds-barred approach will add to the spontaneity factor of having sex outside the bedroom. It could make the whole experience more pleasurable.


Missionary position
The missionary position is the most conventional position and, let's not deny it, we all like this oldie-but-goodie. This sex position allows for, among other things, a special feeling of closeness between you and your partner. The comfort of the bedroom is also enjoyable, since that's where most of us like to kick back and relax after a good love-making session.

Other physical rewards are non-stop kissing, touching and eye-gazing -- it's like a whole body massage, inside and out. Because the missionary position is a very intimate experience, you might want to try something different when you're having sex with someone you don't particularly love.

Finally, because the missionary position is very ordinary, that does not mean that it can't be extraordinary. Put some swivel in your hips when plunging in and out. Remember that your entry angle will really make the difference between a memorable performance and an average one.
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Although the information listed above can vary from one couple to another, in general, every position serves a purpose. In the second part of this article , I discuss three more positions and explain why and when they should be performed.

As a side note, if you would like to intensify your sexual experiences, try one of these products: Herbal Vibes RX and Penis Pro. I discovered these herbal products purely by chance, and decided to share their potential value with you.

Cosmo Sex Expert


Cosmopolitan magazine quoted me in the new issue, September 2008, in two articles. The more interesting of the two is an article about having sex against the wall (p. 154-156). It took sheer genius by the writer to stretch that topic for a full article. I was interviewed extensively via email and phone about every aspect imaginable about how to have sex against a wall, what it would feel like to have sex against the wall, and how to improve sex against the wall. I had a silly exchange with my favorite Cosmo fact-checker when she asked me to okay the following quote: “Guys love to feel powerful, and since he has you pinned against the wall, he’s in complete control of the pace and depth of his thrusting.” I asked her to change my quote to “Some guys…” instead of just “Guys…” because obviously not all guys love to feel powerful. The fact checker asked if they could make it, “Most guys…” I told her that I really wanted it to read “Some guys…” I need to make sure that weak guys everywhere have a voice. And sure enough, Cosmo honored my request. So to all of you guys out there who do not love feeling powerful: You’re welcome.

One more note on that story. Take a look at the headline. Notice anything odd? No sex position is naughty, so it’s a weird headline for a piece about sex-against-wall to begin with… But besides that. Notice anything else? Do you see the misspelling?

WOMENS ONLY






The ancient art of lovemaking. The incredible positions of kama sutra or karma sutera have been handed down through generations. Here are some photos of kama sutra.



These photos are snitched from kstang A Pathetic Attempt at karma sutra who in turn snitched them from some Turkish company manufacturing jeans. I tried hunting for the original website to give proper credit but unfortunately, I wasn’t able to locate it.



Karma sutra sounds as old as religious relics. It also sounds as innocent as silk and cocoon. (sutera means silk in Bahasa Malaysia) LOL.



So what exactly is karma sutra, other than the sexual connotations we have in our dirty little mind?






is an ancient Indian text on human sexual behavior, widely considered to be the standard work on love in Sanskrit literature. The text was composed by Vatsyayana, as a brief summary of various earlier works belonging to a tradition known generically as Kama Shastra, the science of love. Kama is literally desire. Sutra signfies a thread, or discourse threaded on a series of aphorisms. Sutra was a standard term for a technical text, thus also the Yogasutram of Patanjali. The text is originally known as Vatsyayana Kamasutram (”Vatsyayana’s Aphorisms on Love”). Tradition holds that the author was a celibate scholar. He is believed to have lived sometime between the 1st to 6th centuries AD, probably during the great cultural flowering of the Gupta period.

source wikipedia



Whoa!!!! That’s a mighty long history and mouthful of names to remember. Heck, it is so ancient, I think the parts are all rusty and mouldy. LOL. But it is nice to know that our great-great-great-great-great-great (enough greats yet?) have been very innovative back then, in their loin clothes, I suppose.

The splitting of the bamboo, the butterfly flick and the mare’s position are much more fun names to remember.

What Was Your Favorite Sexual Position in 2008?


Since most of you are coupled up, figuring out how to keep the fire burning is essential for a happy, long-lasting relationship. I know many people that make it a point to experiment in the bedroom to avoid a sex slump — a win-win if you ask me! — but even if you mix things up, I'll bet you still have a favorite position.

Slow-Sex Movement Guru: On Orgasms and Sex Positivity


"I’ve never actually met a woman who wasn’t orgasmic. I’ve met women who’ve put themselves against a cultural idea, but we orgasm differently from the model that we’re told orgasm is." This is the last post in a four-part series of interviews I had with Nicole Daedone, who is emerging as the leader of the slow-sex movement, and who founded the OneTaste urban retreat center in San Francisco.

What's Your Favorite Sex Position?


The older I get the more comfortable I am with experimenting in the bedroom. New positions always add some excitement to the relationship, and unless they require an absurd amount of strength or pretzel-like flexibility, I'll give it a-go. Interesting positions are fun to try as far as foreplay goes, but when it comes down to having an orgasm, I'm a fan of the more traditional ones.

Tips For Being on Top


When it comes to sex, there are many fun positions to try out, but if you like to be more intimate, you'll probably prefer being face-to-face. If the woman is on top, the beautiful thing is that she's the one in control, so check out these tips on how to make it even more exciting.
Since you're the one doing most of the moving, try varying your speed.
Don't just move up and down; try moving your hips in circles for a different sensation.
Want to know what else you can do on top?

Dear Poll: Which Sex Position Would You Choose For a Lifetime?


Doggie style was your favorite sexual position of 2008, but only by a few votes — missionary and girl on top were close contenders — but I wonder how your votes would change if you had to pick one position to make love in for the rest of your days. It's a tough decision, I know, so think long and hard before you seal your fate! Source Dear Poll: Which Sex Position Would You Choose

Name That Sex Position


Many women complain that intercourse alone doesn't help them climax, but maybe they just need to try out some new sex positions! Take this fun quiz and see how much you know about these different positions. WARNING

101 Sex Positions


101 Sex Positions emphasises the fun, adventure and simple sensual pleasure of sexual love. Drawing on sources including the Kama Sutra, 101 Sex Positions is a down-to-earth heterosexual guide which includes straightforward explanations and 350 colour photographs to help lovers get the most from their sex lives.

Format: 254 x 203mm (10 x 8”)
Extent: 112pp
Illustrations: 300 col photos
Text: 18000 words

KAMA SUTRA SEX


Expand your lovemaking repertoire and increase your pleasure with this photo manual of Tantra and Kama Sutra sex positions. This modern interpretation of classic love postures is lavishly illustrated with full-color photos. They capture the emotional and energetic connection of sacred lovemaking as well as illustrating sexual positions and techniques. Each photo is accompanied by comments on how and why the position is used. We also include useful information about sacred sex practices. The lovers in these sensual photos are experiencing and expressing the beauty and pleasure of artful lovemaking. Most of the positions illustrated are suitable for lovers of all ages, and with some selectivity, in various stages of physical fitness and health. In other words, you dont have to be an athlete, young, or perfectly fit to use this manual. The message of this eBook is that you too can have what the photos show. Internet interactive edition with: 100 erotic photographs and illustrations; 183 internal document links; 120 external product and information links.


Review: âIf this book doesnât turn you on, then I don't know what will. The photos were certainly erotic and gave me some great fantasy material for lovemaking.â Review by Mart Sableson on Amazon.com June 15, 2005 âWhat I like the most is that the pictures are from real people, and not from models that make you feel like a monster." German - Amazon.com

The top 5 sex positions for men and women, and Kim Kardashian


There is a different sex position for every day of the week, but there are definitely some favorites among men and women. I surveyed a group of men and women and found some very interesting results about their personal favorite positions and what they believe is the opposite sex’s favorite.

Top 5 Favorite Positions for men

1. Doggy style

2. Girl on Top

3. Missionary

4. Reverse cowgirl

5. Seated

10 Pain-Free Sex Positions


Wrecked your knees playing squash or strained your back on that ski trip to Whistler? If your daytime activities have hampered your nighttime pleasure, theres more than one way to ensure that your love life is no pain, all gain. Health industry experts share sex positions to try that ease common body aches and pains and increase pleasure.

Sex Positions Which Promote Conception


There are some sex positions which increase the chances of conception and then there are of course others which reduce your chances. Lets take a look at which positions will increase your chances and why.

The Missionary Position
Many people believe that the missionary position, with the man on top, offers the best success when trying to fall pregnant and there are a number of reasons for this. This position allows for the deepest penetration during love making which as a result will place the sperm closer to the cervix inside the vagina. There are also some alterations to this, such as the woman placing a pillow underneath her hips in order to maximize the exposure of sperm to the cervix.

Rear Entry
The man enters the female from behind. This position often also allows the sperm to be placed closer to the cervix.

Lying Side by Side
This position is often more relaxing, as there is less strain on either partner. This position is also often better for partners who are either overweight or suffer from back pain.

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14 Days of Sex Positions


Rock his world for Valentines Day this year. Begin your celebration February 1st and have your way with him every day for 14 days. Each day, you will find a new sex position and sexy variations to play around with. This is sure to be a Valentine’s Day celebration he will never forget!

Day 1 - Connecting Emotionally
Get into missionary position with the your legs wrapped high around his back. Your man leans over to one side with his elbow supporting him, the other is free to hold you or caress you. Your body leans slightly with his. One of your shoulders comes up and the same hip follows his to the side. That position, halfway between being on your back and being on your side, facilitates very intimate lovemaking.

Day 2 - Animal Love
Experiment with versions of the classic doggie style by repositioning the angles of your hips and torso. Try rocking your hips up or down, spreading your legs wide or bringing them in between his and closing your thighs tight. You can bring your hips forward into more of a push-up position or push back into him. He could stay upright or sit down on his feet, bringing you with him.

Next, experiment with letting your chest fall to the bed or coming upright to stand up on your knees. From there, reach back and around his neck or grab onto his thighs, even lean forward and support yourself on the wall.

For the last (but certainly not least) animal love position, slide to the edge of the bed and have your guy stand on the floor behind you. Slide your knees in or out to level your hips with his.

Day 3 - Flat Out
Lie down flat on your tummy and have him lie on top of you. There isn’t much you can do in this position other than rocking your hips one way or the other; it is all up to him. You may be wondering where the fun is in that, but let me tell you, your lack of control is part of the thrill. You’ve got to just let your partner work his magic. It’s the perfect position for him to caress your legs, cheeks, back, neck, and arms. He can kiss and nibble on your neck to his hearts content.

Day 4 - Bedroom Acrobatics
Today is the day to get crazy. This is the position that makes the Love Swing worth buying, but hey, if you’ve got a regular swing and can use it without being reported for public indecency, then go ahead and use it! Without the support, things can get a little tricky, but there are definitely some fun options for you.

Envision yourself as a wheelbarrow. You are face down with your hands on the floor and your lover is standing behind you. In the swing, it’s effortless to strap yourself in and fall forward to let your legs fly up behind you. He can hold your legs out to the side from underneath or let the leg straps do the work and grab onto your hips. You can wrap your legs around his back as well.

If you are trying this without the support of a swing, it may be easier for your man to be on his knees and you on your forearms, but even then, it could be quite a challenge. To achieve a similar effect, stack pillows or use a Liberator Wedge placed at the edge of a bed to support your body into a position much like the Downward Facing Dog yoga pose, with your chest resting on the bed instead of your hands on the floor, making it much less awkward for your man to hold up your bottom half.

Day 5 - Quite Clitoral
Today is the day to play around on top. While you are on top, see how it feels to move your hips in different ways. Slide forward and back (back to center or beyond, as long as it is comfortable for you both) without lifting yourself off of his body at all. Try this sitting up with your torso at varying degrees and feel the difference. You can also lay down fully onto your partner’s chest and rock your hips forward and back (which makes an up and down motion on him).

Experiment with the placement of your legs as well. See how it feels to have them alongside your lover’s hips. Then, tuck your toes under his thighs and have him close his legs all the way. Try tucking your toes under your bum, on top of his thighs.

Another position is to bring your legs forward instead of folded underneath you. Your lover can try a few tricks of his own with you on top. He can raise his torso up slightly or all the way, he can open or close his legs, and he can squeeze his bum and press into you. If he sits up all the way, try wrapping your legs around his back for a whole new experience. Hold him close or lean back with the support of his arms.

If you are still looking for more, flip around into a reverse cowgirl position. You are still sitting on top, but you are facing his feet instead! In this position, you can lean back to let him wrap his arms around your body. This way, he can explore you with his hands, but he can't see what he's touching!

Day 6 - Standing Ovation
There are so many creative ways to make love standing up, but depending on his size and how your bodies fit together, some are better than others. Your man can come from behind while you lean forward to brace yourself against a wall (most anyone can achieve this one) or he can use his body to press you flat against the wall (takes a little more finesse), or you could bend all the way over so you are supporting yourself with your hands on the floor (this one could hurt if he’s really very well-endowed).

You can also turn face to face (aligning your bodies with a stool if necessary) and hold each other close (only for the well-endowed). Part your legs far enough for penetration and then close them again for maximum clitoral stimulation. Stay close or hold onto each other for balance and lean your torsos away from each other. The range of movement is limited, but smaller tantric movements like this one can be incredibly intimate.

Day 7 - Bend Over Backwards
You kneel, then sit on your feet and lie back onto the floor, allowing your thighs to spread. He climbs on top of you, holding your arms high above your head. Depending on how your bodies align, he’s got the option of being between your things, over you like a push-up position, or straddling you. He can kiss and nibble on your shoulders, chest and arms in this position with ease. While this position might take some effort to stay in, it is more than worth the work. Your breasts are taut, your clitoris is exposed, and you are really quite at his mercy, making it extra hot!

Day 8 - Tender Times
Make love in the spooning position for a passionate and intimate connection. You each have a free arm to caress each other with. Reach up and around his neck for a super sexy kiss. You can easily maneuver into variations of this position by wrapping your top leg over and around his or rolling slightly onto your tummy and your man reaching over you to support himself with his hand on the bed near your shoulder.

Day 9 - Anywhere, Anytime
Hop up on a kitchen counter, on the washing machine, his/your desk at the office, or even the hood of your car. Call your man over, wrap your legs around him, and go to town. If he’s strong enough to do it without being awkward, he can lift you from your seated position and hold you up against a wall for a little variation.

Day 10 - The Quest of the O
For optimal G-Spot stimulation, try this on for size. Get your guy to stand next to the bed. You lie on your back with your bum at the very edge. Use a Liberator wedge or a stack of pillows underneath you to prop your hips up. Doing so will your hips to meet without him having to crouch, but more importantly, it tilts your pelvis into a position that is perfect for G-spot stimulation. You can wrap your legs around him, rest them on his shoulders or chest, or he can hold them up for you. He can grip your hips and bring you to him or use his hands to caress and play with your body.

Day 11 - Trading Places
It’s time to try a reverse missionary position. Your man lies on his back with his legs parted. You lie on top of him in between his legs. Open your thighs enough to allow penetration, and then close them again to grip him tightly. Pump just like he would in a traditional missionary position. You won’t believe the increased stimulation you will feel, not to mention the excitement of trading places!

Day 12 - Have a Seat
Get into traditional doggie style position, but then have your man sit up and back on his knees. Let your hips come back with him. Then, find which torso position you like best. Keep your chest down on the bed, push up to your hands, or sit all the way up with your back against his chest. In that last position, you can kiss each other and caress each other, making it one of those silver screen sex positions you always wanted to experience.

Day 13 - Classic and Fantastic
The missionary position is always nice, but today, you’ll be mixing things up a bit. First, try letting your legs rest flat in a spread eagle position on the bed. Then, bring your knees up, feet flat on the bed. You can thrust your hips up off of the bed to meet him. Next, lower your hips back down to the bed and wrap your legs around him. Experiment with sliding your feet up and down the inside of his legs for a little different stimulation.

Next, try raising your legs up off the bed into a variety of positions. Wrap them around his waist, locking your ankles to allow you a point of leverage to join in his movement. Extend your legs straight out to the side. Try resting one or both of your legs on his shoulders. He can stay lying on top of you, come slightly up to support himself with his arm on the bed or wall behind you.

He could sit back on his knees, holding you up by gripping your thighs against his chest. From there, you can let your legs bend and slide down to his side or bring your knees together with your feet flat on his chest. Experiment here with where your hips are. Feel the difference when you lift them up and slide a pillow underneath you as opposed to resting your back flat on the bed. Have your guy lean forward and push your knees into your chest for a whole new experience! Each variation of the missionary position offers a great new sensation for the both of you.

Day 14 - Blow His Mind
Surprise your lover with today’s position that is just for him. Sit him in a chair, on the couch, or on a seat in the shower and tell him to lean back and enjoy. Start him off with a little oral action, but stop before he gets too excited, take a break. Slide your body up to where you are chest to chest. Kiss him all over, teasing him as you go and then slide your bare skin back down to finish him off. If you just can’t help it, go ahead and climb onto his lap, facing front or back, doing all the work for him.

What’s so special


What’s so special you’re asking? Well, while you can have some “ordinary” experiences of a virtual multiplayer world of chatting with people, shopping for clothes or having other outdoor activities, you can also try the “sex mode”! This mode allows you to try sex positions with your avatar partner, turn on the webcam, “or just visit the voyeur club and get a sneak peak at someone else's wild side”.

Very creative, kinky and daring. Really. What I don’t like in these apps is the potential to replace (to a certain extent) a normal social interaction. There’s no harm in meeting a potential date over an online dating service, over any IM jabber or flirt through SMS. There is no wrong in having a place to express ourselves and our fantasies more easily and freely either. But these apps exist in an evasive sphere, not totally real and not totally imaginary. They provide an alternative experience which is easier and safer to dating (in the real world) which many find as very stressing, intimidating and exhausting. By providing a detour, many just don’t need to cope with/ face their difficulties in order to get satisfaction.

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